Daryl Wood's Blog

Tonight I’m trying to figure out when the right time will be to make a trip to the city. A friend will be in town from out of the country and a few of our mutual pals will be getting together. I want to be there AND I want to be here.

I keep asking if this is the right time to get away since I have so much to do in preparation for my October 22nd Women’s Wisdom Retreat AND I have obligations to other people. What I know I need to do is exactly what I taught my retreat participants last weekend. Lay my values template over my quandary and watch the answer emerge.

When we are clear about what is important to us we can make decisions quicker and easier than if we are dangling over the edge of uncertainty. If we don’t know who matters to us we might easily neglect the relationships that we deeply cherish. And when we say yes to something that gives us momentary relief we may be saying no to something that, in the long term, will bring us joy and peace.

I have strong values of friendship and connection. In both difficult and happy times it has been my friends who have stood by me. They know me and they still stick with me because they don’t get distracted by the periodic, unruliness of my choices. They are solidly in my corner and they know they can count on me just as I count on them.

So it makes me wonder why I am even thinking of not going. Yes, I love being home and it is a long drive. Yes, I would rather snuggle up with my husband at night than sleep alone in an unfamiliar bed. Yes, I will be unavailable to my business and will miss my favourite fitness class.

And, it feels like the right time. I’m recovering from my mother’s passing and entering a new phase of life without either of my parents. I’ve been working very hard and haven’t laughed nearly as much as I used to. While I love my home and appreciate it so much, time away will make me love it even more.

So, am I going? Maybe. That final decision is yet to be made but what has been decided is that now I’m sure I want to. That’s worth knowing.