Daryl Wood's Blog

I could write a whole book on this but I’ll start with this:

I wonder if we realize how often we hold onto someone or something that no longer serves us or aligns with who we are. I mean who we are really, not the who we are that we might have lived with or presented to the world for years. How long can we hold onto places, activities and the people who populated our life in the past if they don’t fit anymore? And what is necessary to let go of in order to be honest with ourselves as we shift into the life we are living now?

And what if that means letting go of relationships that have been very special or have filled our world with excitement, opportunity and comfort? Is there a sense of betrayal? Are we less grateful? Is there guilt? And what if we have little or no choice because someone else has rejected us? In the wake of grief, the very idea of letting go of people is very painful. What I notice for me is that even when people have done something or are doing something that reveals a fundamental disconnect I sometimes cling because I’m afraid of being alone or having no one to reach out to. And I don’t want to be seen (I have no idea who is watching and rating my behaviour) as ungrateful or judgemental. I mean, really?

A quote I return to is “Rejection is spirit’s protection.” Rejection isn’t just about someone distancing themselves or ghosting me, it’s also when situations I was counting on or looking forward to don’t work out. It’s the turn of events that break my heart or make me anxious. Then the worry comes in and a long list of fear based internal questions about my worth and worthiness. I have the tools to deal with this and I do it. The challenge is when I am getting all the signals and not realizing that I am being given a gift. A gift that this relationship or situation is not in my best interest so perhaps it would serve me to step away, to retreat and ask myself what I’m getting from it that keeps me tethered to something that doesn’t help me heal and grow. And worse yet, how is this taking up space in my life that could be filled with something more meaningful?

If I am to believe what I taught for decades (and I do believe it at a cellular level) then there are lots of quotes to guide me:

• “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” Maya Angelou

• “Once you become aware of what stands in your way and become willing to release it, you signal the universe that you are ready to manifest the life you were meant to live.”    Chérie Carter-Scott

• “The space for what you want is already filled with what you settled for instead.”  Richard Bach

So on this frosty February morning I am nudging myself to let the messages be heard. Rather than reading between the lines or making assumptions I see that I have been getting very clear signals from Spirit, The Universe, God, Creator, all the time. It’s time to let go. With that comes trusting that what is meant for me will show up. After all, I am maybe too well known for saying that the Law of Attraction is always at work whether you believe it or not. As long as I hold onto, and that includes investing in, relationships and situations that are not for my highest good then I might have more of those in my life. No thanks. I am on the crest of rebuilding and letting go might be more liberating than I ever imagined.