Posted by: Ms. Daryl Wood | December 8, 2011

Breathe

Today, take the time to notice your breath. And when you do … try to imagine a life without it. Most of us take it for granted that when we need breath, oxygen, it will be there. We don’t notice how our body draws in life through our breath. But today, let’s do that. For the sake of all those who struggle and gasp, let’s appreciate the seemingly effortless flow of life giving breath into our bodies. What a gift.

Posted by: Ms. Daryl Wood | December 7, 2011

Don’t Take Things Personally – It’s NOT About YOU

I am deeply grateful for the work of Don Miguel Ruiz in The Four Agreements. From him, and others, I learned not to take things personally … and most of the time I don’t. And when I do, it’s usually only for a brief time until I reorient myself.

You see, I was raised to feel a disproportionate sense of responsibility for other people’s unhappiness or discontent. So it’s only ‘natural’ that I would immediately absorb other people’s feelings and hold myself accountable. But it’s not true. We all choose from wherever we are. We choose from an accumulation of our history, our biography, our present moment needs and our perspectives on ourselves and the world.

To take things personally is to see myself as a victim, powerless over the opinions of others. Instead, I own my feelings and emotions and release others to do the same. In the end, it opens a space for acceptance and love. And that’s all that matters.

Posted by: Ms. Daryl Wood | December 7, 2011

Choose Peace

Today, confronted by someone’s rage, I had a choice. It took a moment until I reminded myself of the beautiful verse from A Course In Miracles “I can choose peace, instead of this.”

I can choose to love someone who doesn’t love me. I can choose to forgive someone who refuses to forgive me. I can choose to care about someone who says they don’t care about me. I can choose to be kind towards someone who is mean to me. I can choose to listen to someone who does not listen to me.I can choose to love myself when someone says I am unlovable.

And I can always choose peace. What will you choose?

Posted by: Ms. Daryl Wood | December 6, 2011

Show Up

I don’t believe that I (or we for that matter) have the right to squander the life we have been given. It’s not that we need to be inhumanely driven to succeed. It’s more that we must recognize how precious the moments of our days really are. It’s that we find the extraordinary in the ordinaryness of our lives. And we do this because we are here, living our lives on purpose, whether we know it or not. And that matters.

 

Posted by: Ms. Daryl Wood | December 6, 2011

Searching for Compassion … Again

Again, life lessons smash into my world. Be compassionate. Be compassionate.

The one who calls with an ultimate purpose of telling you about his pain. He blames you. He doesn’t want to hear your story. Be compassionate. He is suffering. Make space for him to release some of his pain.

The one who calls to fulfill an obligation. He wants to complain about other people. He wants to feel powerful over you. He doesn’t want to hear your story. Be compassionate. He has his fears and challenges. Make space for him to release some of his suffering.

Thich Nhat Hanh encourages ‘compassionate listening’ for the sake of easing someone’s suffering and says ‘as long as compassion is alive in you, you are immunized against suffering.” Be compassionate.

Posted by: Ms. Daryl Wood | December 5, 2011

Be Compassionate

Before I make this blog into a rant, let me begin again: from a place of wise knowing.

Before you judge the hesitant driver in front of you, the telemarketer who calls at dinner time, the bored store clerk who doesn’t look up from the till, the mother who can’t make her kids behave on the bus, the waiter/waitress who delivers the wrong meal, the boss who doesn’t pay a fair wage, the pet lovers who don’t pick up after their pooch, the business owners who charge more than the big box stores, the people on welfare who cheat the system, the politicians who abuse public funds, the churches for not owning their mistakes, the municipality for hiring contractors who don’t do a good job, the neighbours for having too many Christmas lights/parking on their lawn/partying late and especially anyone who has ever said something mean … stop.

Find a sense of compassion for what others might be experiencing now or have experienced in the past. Feel compassion for the souls around you who are struggling, like you, to feel safe or to live up to the expectations the world has placed on them. Compassion can erase judgement, insensitivity, rudeness, criticism, sarcasm and hurt. Today, be a living, breathing vessel of compassion. God knows, the world could use a healthy dose of compassion today.

May you know you are loved.

Posted by: Ms. Daryl Wood | December 5, 2011

Compassion Over Anger

OK … I’ve calmed down. I don’t want to be an angry person. I want to be compassionate; compassionate towards those who may not understand the impact of their actions on others; compassionate towards those who do know what they are doing and haven’t found a way to survive without hurting someone else; compassion for those who have no idea what I’m talking about and may keep doing what they are doing because in their mind, it’s just harmless fun.

And always, always, compassion towards those who feel victimized; those who are afraid to defend themselves; those who feel they deserve the humiliation; those who have become so used to being bullied that they have shut down emotionally. There is a way out. Believe me. I know.

I’m learning. That’s my ‘career path’ – being a student. I willingly open my heart and mind.

Posted by: Ms. Daryl Wood | December 5, 2011

I’m Tired of Bullies

I’m tired of hearing people complain about bullying among our young people. Of course I am outraged that it takes place. Of course I am heartbroken that a child, or anyone, would take their own life rather than face the humiliation that bullies dish out. Of course I am increasing frustrated with the range of tactics and unbelievable lack of sincere remorse from the bullies.

But I wonder how many people who feel the same way are sitting in front of a television, or movie screen or computer monitor laughing at the bullying that is passed off as entertainment. Don’t show images day after day of people insulting, embarrassing, harassing, making fun of, and diminishing someone else without expecting to see that same behaviour repeated AND sometimes exemplified in our world. Don’t spread gossip, disguised as information, that in any way hurts someone.

We can’t have it both ways. If it’s not okay to call a teenager a loser then it’s not okay to make men the butt of jokes in tv commercials. If it’s not okay to pick on a child because their clothes are ill-fitting then it’s not okay to portray women as hysterical. Think people. What on earth are we doing making fun of anyone! I mean … really?

I’m sick and tired of the lack of respect and courtesy and kindness that we all deserve; that would change our world in a heartbeat if only each one of us would have the courage to take responsibility for how we treat others. And maybe it starts with our own self-worth. We are bombarded with messages that we aren’t enough so it’s inevitable that we feel ‘less than’. And I am so angry that I, and a lot of other people, have been taught that you can make yourself feel better by putting someone else down. We don’t have that right.

I’m not perfect and God knows I am doing what I can to change my ways. Are you?

Posted by: Ms. Daryl Wood | July 22, 2010

Words Inspiring Me Today

“BE A LITTLE KINDER THAN IS NECESSARY FOR EVERYONE YOU MEET IS FIGHTING A HARD BATTLE” James Barrie

“I am only one; but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something. I will not refuse to do the something I can do.” Helen Keller

Posted by: Ms. Daryl Wood | July 7, 2010

Who Will You See Today

“Once a century a man may be ruined or made insufferable by praise. But surely once a minute something generous dies for want of it.” John Masefield

Who will you genuinely acknowledge today? Who is waiting to be seen? Who has stepped forward, took a risk, opened themselves up … and now looks for some nod that they are appreciated for who they are?

This might be the day you change someone’s life.

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